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Suicide Is Not An Option

 

A lot of questions arises when you hit the rock bottom and everything seem like terror. When all you have ever had vanished into thin air like it never existed,when you felt like your existence was meaningless and you felt like life was being cruel to you. All you need at that moment to survive is not questioning yourself on how everything changed suddenly, all you need is to find a way to live again. Dieing doesn't end a tragic life. Afterlife is something unknown to many, if you think death will solve everything, do you know what happens after death?. Live in the moment.

Most people result to suicide because they felt neglected, rejected and dejected. Before suicide thoughts could creep into a man's mind, it would have taken a lot of series of unpleasant events. No matter what you're passing through, it will end, nothing last forever and that includes your pain. Endure for the moment, fight through it, don't check out of life because its unbearable. What if you think afterlife would be different and it turns out to be hell, forgeting that you can't live again after death. Live now when you have the life and live it right. How can you ride yourself of suicidal thoughts.

Firstly, love yourself unconditionally: You need to learn how to love yourself first. If you love yourself enough, you won't have a negative thought of commiting suicide to escape life's difficulty. If you don't love yourself enough, others won't know how better to treat you. 
Depending on others to love you when you can't do it yourself is selfish, no matter how selfless you are, there is the need to practice self love, that is the first step to escaping creepy thought, indulgence in self pity and suffering from low self-esteem. 

Understand that no man is perfect : Accepting the imperfections of others will help you in a great way to tolerate them. Understanding people will help you to deal with rejection. Sometime poeple may reject you because of their own insecurity and not because you are not good enough. It's true that life is more easier for some people, and that is where understanding comes in. You need to understand that everyone has a different life to live, a different pattern of destiny and fate, understanding that life won't be rosy for all and at the same time it won't be a terror for all, will equip your mind to deal with disappointments. The way you view life will determine the level of your happiness, if you keep dwelling on negativity, your life outcome will be negative, If you keep thinking there is no way other that suicide, then that will become your reality. Your life is like a plant, if you feed it with negativity, it will grow negatively and if you feed it with positivity, it will grow positively. Always feed your life with a positive thought.

Don't see death as an escape route:  People die when they are worn out (old). If you want to rid yourself of a terrible or pitiful existence, then you need to create a better life not discard the present one. Creating a better life is foaming out every form of negativity in your life and embracing a positive lifestyle. Live differently from your normal routine of always feeling dejected when things doesn't go your way. To be a mastery of success, you would have failed countless times. No matter how many times you've fallen, it doesn't make you a failure until you stop working towards getting up. Don't give up at the wrong time, persevere and you will never regret to have keep trying. 

Restrain from self pity : Stop the attitude of seeing yourself as the only one carrying the weight of the world, stop seeing yourself as a victim created to suffer. If you had the opportunity to ask every individual on the planet earth about their pain's or life journey so far, then you would realise that life isn't just unfair to only you but to everybody at a point in time. Life is not just good to one person nor bad to some set of people, we all get a taste of the good and bad times. There is time for everything. A time to cry and a time to laugh. Endure when you are in that period that seem like nothing is working out in your favour, it will pass and you will finally wish life should never end, when the moment of your joy arrive. So don't give up too soon before that moment comes. 

Remember life is a journey:  Life is a journey we all must pass through. But how we live it is different and the difference stems form individual differences and our level of positivism. Always try to see the best in every situation. Don't just see the bad side alone, try as much as possible to see the bright side as well. One day you will be where you had always wish to be. Joy will come eventually.

Lean on someone if necessary : Don't be too bottled up in your little word of fear, that you forget to explore. If at a point in your life, you feel weighed down by life's struggle, don't hesitate to confide in a good friend. Leaning on someone doesn't make you weak, it just showed how much of a human you are. Talk to someone, sometimes all you need to relieve your stress might be a listening ear. Don't conceal your pains just to appear happy to others, real happiness comes from being genuine. 

Copyright © Ojingiri Hannah 2018

Author: Ojingiri Hannah
Ojingiri Hannah is currently a student of university of ilorin, where she studies English. Hannah holds a Diploma in Law degree from Kogi State university, Ayingba and NCE degree in English/Economics from Kwara State college of education, ilorin. In her spare time she enjoys writing and reading inspirational books. She lives in Nigeria.

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